Not only that, its release produces a relaxing effect for both partners."It's a nice way to relax or fall asleep at the end of the day," says Chelsea.The comments following an ANR story on the website Scary Mommy reveals an array of people offering judgment on the couple in question, with some wondering why they feel the need to share their story publicly, and one commenter going as far as to speculate as to whether the ANR participants are "attention seeking egomaniacs." Even in the world of kink and fetishes, ANR participants are outliers."Even within the alternative communities, a lot of people don't understand it," Ellie explains. "It all comes down to one basic premise: your kink is not my kink and that's OK."Part of ANR's taboo stems from some fundamental misunderstandings about who participates in it – and what it means.They also engage in what they call "feeding" – Ellie induces lactation and produces breast milk for Garett to consume.How Virtual Reality ' Sex Edutainment' Is Revolutionizing Porn "Virtual Sexology" pairs an adult star with a sex therapist to bring Masters and Johnson techniques to the porn-enlightened public Ellie, 55, and Garett, 57, are in what's known as an "adult nursing relationship," or an "adult breastfeeding relationship." These arrangements are exactly what they sound like – one partner produces milk to share with the other through breastfeeding.
Their home appears cozy and comfortable, and Garett works long hours while Ellie stays home and tends to household needs.
So what draws people into such uncommon and misunderstood relationships?
The most frequent explanation is that it gives the partners a sense of intimacy they wouldn't otherwise be able to achieve – a feeling facilitated by hormones that are secreted in order to produce a bond between mother and child, particularly oxytocin.
This is partially backed up by scientific research, which shows that oxytocin can lessen fear and anxiety by reducing activation of the amygdala.
Prolactin, the other hormone produced by lactation, has also been shown to lower stress in the person producing it, with lactating women demonstrating less intense responses to adrenaline.