As an acknowledged expert on the intersection of sex, relationships and technology, I sometimes find myself conversing in what sounds like a foreign language.
In fact, a few weeks ago I was explaining to a group of fellow clinicians the need for them to understand what it means when a client looks at them and says something like: "I was doing J-Date on the DL and my wife didn't know because I kept it to sexts and i CU2.
If so, I'm impressed, and you should definitely feel free to read something else now. To help, I've compiled a list of sexual and romantic terminology commonly used in online sexual and romantic interactions, creating an abbreviated "sexicon," printed below.
(This material is pulled primarily from my recently released book Closer Together, Further Apart, coauthored with Dr.
•Digits: Digital contact information, such as phone number, e-mail, and website address. •Face Time: This is a video chat service allowing one-to-one video calls between Apple users.
•Pink Cupid: This is an adult friend finder app used by lesbian women for dating and casual sexual hookups.
•Sexting: This is the sending of sexualized texts, often with an erotic image (usually a selfie) attached.
Sexting is done to flirt, to titillate, to exhibit, and sometimes even to harass and denigrate.
•Selfie: This is a digital self-snapshot, usually taken using the camera in one's smartphone. They are very easy to post onto social media sites and to share via text messaging.
•Sexnology: Technology used to generate or enhance sexual pleasure.